Pass the Security Blanket

char kuey teow, anyone?

Have u ever wondered why some people are so insecure in their lives that they end up doing some of the silliest things to try and provide their own selves with a false sense of security? It becomes especially true when it's insecurity in a romantic relationship, where one party feels that they cannot equal their partner's good looks/great charms/popularity with the opposite sex.

It's perfectly normal to be insecure sometimes. Everyone gets hit by that pang of "What if?" every once in a while. In fact when i first started going out with my current partner i felt pretty insecure, coz he seemed to be particularly well-liked and popular with the female crowd. However, all it took was some time, a little discussion and the most important element in a relationship - trust - before i got over my little insecurities.

However, in the recent days i have noticed insecurities present themselves to me in different forms. Not my personal insecurities, but those of others'. And trust me, it can be more awkward

than not. Like in the case of where someone thinks you're trying to steal their partner and thus goes on and makes a public statement (or many, many statements for that matter) that their lover is so intensely in love with them, that they only have eyes for each other etc. And sometimes it's a bit of an information overload.

The root of the matter was that you never had any intention to be a thief anyway. But the insecure mind had become so twisted that something which was so unconnected with that fact was already a different picture in their mind. And it's sad that they are so insecure that they have to resort to ways which, for lack of better word, actually deadbolt their partner to themselves. There are limits to every relationship, and to everything you can or cannot do in a relationship. But if at the end of the day the limits which have been set are so unrealistic they are not workable, even the strongest of deadbolts will undo.

Sometimes you just need to sit back and tell yourself (not the whole wide world) that your partner really loves you for YOU. And in spite of the fact that there are millions of individuals out there who are more beautiful, more attractive, smarter, more eloquent etc. at the end of the day he or she still chose YOU. And chose to remain with YOU. Therefore if there's any threat whatsoever to the "great" relationship which you are in now, it could well be your own sense of insecurity that's posing that threat.

Live life and love one day at a time, and never try and rush things. You'd be surprised at some of the results you might obtain. And just because certain people don't publicly tell their partners they love them, doesnt mean they don't. Cheers.